Transforming Fear Into Growth

Synchronicity or what?! I rediscovered this link in an old bookmark file this morning. Fear of Transformation – it was 2006 when I heard it: the professor read it aloud to our class; fifty fearful freaking out leadership school students. It begins with “Sometimes I feel my life is a series of trapeze bars.” I was hooked. By the end it stopped me in my tracks with this new thought:

transformation of fear may have nothing to do

with making fear go away”

I was researching how to manage violence and aggression at the time. Now I’m focusing on the opposites: the benefits that gratitude and self-understanding create for us. I only just “got it” after re-reading the Fear of Transformation this morning. I’ve transformed from running away from fear to allowing it to guide me when needed.

Here’s the synchronicity: just a few days ago I was on a radio show talking about this very thing. The big AHA this morning? I’ve been in a decades long learning loop and have finally broken free! I’m now sharing the benefits of understanding fear in the hopes of guiding and empowering others to whatever transformation they desire. Listen to the interview here:

Why am I sharing these things? I believe that understanding our fears gives us the courage to face them. We can learn to hear them out, thank them and ultimately embrace them.

Yes it is SCARY! At first. Funny thing about fear – if you give it a voice and a “thanks for the heads up – I got this” – then fear has done it’s job and goes off-duty. Even better, over time, fear learns it doesn’t have to knock so hard to be heard.

What’s good about that? It gets quiet enough to hear your passions urging you to come out and play. It’s safe!

So what lights you up? What makes your heart sing? What makes you giggle in child-like wonder and joy? These are not childish questions. It is NOT selfish to want to be happy; it is doing yourself a service. How? When you engage with the positive emotions and feelings that bubble up as you remember what makes you jump for joy; your body chemistry changes. You can rewire your brain. Literally! This is ultimately a service to humanity.

Eh what?? Me serve humanity? Isn’t that a bit much to bite off and chew? How? Why?

I believe that feelings can be infectious and we need to be more responsible for what we are putting “out there.” Knowing what makes you tick creates self-understanding and thus compassion for others. We all flip out on occasion – it’s normal. When we emanate calm understanding in the face of fear, we can inoculate others – they “catch” our calmness – no injection needed! It’s empathy – feeling with a person.

Imagine all that empathy rippling out into the world to create the circumstances needed to move forward as one people for the good of all – because we understand each other and acknowledge our shared humanity? Just by owning up to our feelings and being gentle with ourselves and each other – how simple is that? And then imagine BILLIONS OF DOLLARS worldwide being rerouted into education, healthcare, science and exploration?!?!

And so BE it!

So come on out and play already! Wanna learn how? Don’t take years to figure it out like I did; I can guide you to rewrite your story. Check out our Facebook page for more info – site launch coming in January!

Let’s look to the good together. Imagine the party we’re having as we celebrate!!!






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